Just Doing It

We are worlds apart, We don't have the same kind of cancer. We are not at the same point in our lives - in fact I have children older than she is. But in addition to friends, and blogs, and cancer, Kate and I have other things in common. One of them is animals.

Mine are cats who sometimes send twitter messages, Kate's is a frog who sometimes writes blog posts and recently wrote - er suggested - some rules for dealing with cancer patients.  All I have to say is that he's a darned smart frog!

"Certainly these aren’t universal truths. But they’re a good starting point, and hopefully they’ll help other people who are friends or family of someone diagnosed with cancer

"There is something you can do, so quit asking and do it.

"Whenever I asked Kate if there was something I could do, she just politely declined and said that she appreciated the offer... I realized after a while that it’s pretty hard for most people to (a) accept offers of help, and (b) think about what might be most helpful, especially if they’re just trying to assimilate a new diagnosis.

"So instead of asking, just do: cook and deliver some dinners, show up and cut the grass or rake the leaves, clean the house and run the sweeper, just do. And don’t make a big deal out of it."

I'm thinking about posting this all around the neighborhood. Someone might even organize my studio closet if I was really lousy looking that day.

Honestly I seem to know lots of people who DO just do it. They are not nearby so they don't clean or shop but they do what they can - like sending cookies, fudge, colored pencils, little surprises that nobody needed to give permission to do. They just go ahead and do.

I'm thinking that my friends and Kate's frog friend have a lot in common. And the world's a lot better than it appears to be if one just listens to the national news.

Kate's Blog can show you a lot more about the good stuff in the world. And watching the little video below can show you how special and thoughtful some of my friends, in this case Lucretia Pruitt aka @geekmommy, can be, just out of the blue!

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[rebecca]

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